Connecting the Dots

Are you in pain ? Are you living with pain on a regular basis? Are you so familiar with pain, it has become like an annoying family member? I live with pain. However, unlike most people, I have been able to assess many of the reasons for my pain. As...

Public Speaking Means Never Saying "I'm Sorry"

  In the romantic movie, "Love Story", a phrase about love was introduced that went, "Love means never having to say your sorry". And while anyone who is married knows how untrue that is, we could easily adapt that concept to the world of public...

Make Them Laugh

In the delightful Broadway musical "Singing in the Rain", there is a song called "Make em Laugh" which is based on this idea that the best way for any stage performer to build a bond with an audience is to use humor to bring a smile, or a laugh, to that...

Making a Living as a Public Speaker

The wonderful dearly departed comic Chris Farley had a character that was a professional motivational speaker. That character was Matt Foley and he was an absolute mess. His speaking style was painful and destructive and he lived (say it with me) in...

Illustrate, Illustrate Illustrate

When a speaker loses an audience, too often it is a mystery to him or her. But for the audience, it is not a mystery. The simple fact is that many speeches we listen to spend a lot of time in some theory or idea. And we as humans have trouble focusing...

The Games People Play 1: Everybody Succumbs to Pity

Pity is the greatest seducer "I am sure that if the devil existed, he would want us to feel very sorry for him." ―  Martha Stout ,  The Sociopath Next Door Of all the seduction games people play perhaps the most dastardly is the one often used...

Setting Smart Goals

  In the last installation we talked about doing a don't list(l ink to other post ). How many of you actually followed through?  If this is your first time reading stop! For just a second and develop a mental Don't List. Moving on. . . .  ...